Sometimes I like to remind folks that attunement isn’t mind reading, it isn’t perfect call and exact response, it’s just response. It’s shared grief when the response can’t be exactly met. So often folks will say (from the need for help or the hope to help) that a casserole doesn’t change anything…but a casserole isn’t just a casserole…it’s acknowledgement, it’s care, it’s time and labour and thought and often, love. I really think that culturally, we need more casserole, yes